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Kids just say the darndest things!

Every once in a while I revert back to my children in a blog because of something that's happened that's truly warmed my heart. This occassion is one of them!

Last night I was a bit harsh and snappy with my daughter whose chatterbox mouth was steering me away from my search for quiet (...and my need to complete a thought without constant interruption.)  Because we've raised our children with very little TV, I have an automatic guilt trip for turning it on, but maybe I should have because Mommy wasn't being a good playmate!

I felt bad about being unfairly snappy and, in trying to teach a good lesson, I spoke to my daughter about it this morning as she was getting ready for school. "That's right, Mom, and I'm sorry too for being crabby when you didn't sing to me before bed." And so we continued with our morning and I added that this morning, I was going to let her get ready on her own without nagging about getting dressed, brushing teeth, and hurrying up to eat (something we go through daily and it wears on me as well as her I'm sure!)

After a successful morning without nagging and getting out the door ahead of time for once (which I still can't figure out how it happened without my nagging) she went on..."because I will be able to teach my children how to prepare themselves for school without all that 'do this, do that, blah blah blah' and they won't have to hear me nagging at them because my children won't like it when I nag." I wondered where she got off talking about having children of her own and thinking about how they would feel if she, as a mother, talked to them a certain way. SHE'S 5 and she's talking about how she'll teach her children!

Lesson learned from a 5 year old this morning is, they're brilliantly smart and incredibly capable and willing. Using the right approach and communicating a sense of trust in them is something I'll need to work on because my goal as a parent is to raise my children so that they are capable of being independent when they leave the nest. Treating my daughter as such will help their self esteem greatly as well as make my morning more stressfree!

Comment balloon 6 commentsStephanie Jacques • October 28 2009 10:24AM

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Stephanie, I have raised three and I learned, directly and indirectly, as much from them as they from me.

Posted by Bill Ladewig, Experience Is Your Advantage over 7 years ago

I loved your story!   I will admit upfront, I do not have children.  In saying that, I think my outside view on parenting is that most parents really don't give their kids credit.  Just because they are small doesn't mean they can't use their brains.  They can be very responsible if they are allowed but it has to start early. You can't do everything for them and then out of the blue, expect them to know how to make intelligent decisions for themselves.  It is a process that starts at the toddler age.  The best you can give to a child is self-confidence and good decision making skills.  Allow them to make mistakes and fix their own problems.  Let them grow from the experience.   Okay, I'm off my soapbox now :0)

Posted by Susan Emo, Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area (Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage) over 7 years ago

Stephanie, kids "are" brilliant. too often, adults don't realize this. I've always told my children that they are just as smart (or smarter) than any adults, the only differnce is experience.

Posted by Peter Nikic (Broad & Bailey Realty LLC) over 7 years ago

Stephanie:  I am always learning from my grandchildren.  They have a way of looking at life that I have either long forgotten or just never knew. My 4 year old granddaughter wanted to pick out the shoes whe would wear on an outing and against my better judgment, I let her.  She picked out two completely different shoes and after a little bit of discussion about them not matching and explaining to her why it's better if they match, she decided she would still wear the mis-matched shoes and so she did.  People thought it was adorable when they noticed and some acted like there was nothing wrong and other people giggled and asked why and still other's, obviously mothers with 4 year daughters, just nodded their approval and understanding.  Enjoyed the post about your daughter.  They are amazing at that age.

Posted by Donna Yates, Blue Ridge Mountains (BHGRE - Metro Brokers) over 7 years ago

Stephanie - We have to listen to they way they speak and how they hear us. They are not mini-adults and their motor skills are not as refined. I found waking the girls up in the morning 10 minutes earlier solved many of our problems.

Posted by Laura Gray (RE/MAX Realty Group) over 7 years ago

Wow, out of the mouths of babes.  That is a lot of wisdom for such a tiny person.  (maybe lack of TV is paying off already)

 

Posted by Kathleen Frawley, South County Sacramento, 916 730 4404 (Keller Williams 916 730-4404 Elk Grove, Wilton, Folsom, Sacramento) over 7 years ago

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